Sunday

Moving On

Many times after a tragic event in ones life-
you hear the term...

"It's time to move on!"

Does "moving on" change the tragedy? 
Are there unforeseen consequences of that tragedy,
that end upon saying "move on"?

NO!!!!

Time and time again
-clear back to Biblical times mind you-
society has seen the long term affects of bad choices made by stupid people that last years! Even centuries. 
It's called the ripple effect.

So if a person commits adultery...do the consequences of the poor choice made many times over the space of a year end, when the divorce decree is stamped by the judge????

Are the children fine?
Is the other family of the other adulterer fine? 
Was everything fixed as soon as the divorce was final?
From that day forward....did everything 
"Move on"???????

NO!!!!!!

If you don't want the long term affects of poor behavior following you around like a colostomy bag....don't participate in the poor behavior from the very beginning!

Because...just by saying.....

"MOVE ON" 

doesn't mean every things fixed! 

There is residue from your poor choice that maybe....
is moving downstream...stuck in a whirlpool 
(to rear it's ugly head years from now)....
though YOU want it to "move on"....
it can't!

It's one of those uncontrollable consequences
that went with your poor choice.

"MOVE ON?"
I WISH!


Thursday

You Wanted Him to Leave! He Did! Now LEAVE HIM Alone!

Kinda funny...people who do all the sinning....can't leave the one who moves on alone! 

(Here's a re-cap)

So the adulterer has the lustful affair with the husband of her married best friend. When the co-partner...or adultering partner get found out-the two innocent spouses become the bad guys!

WHY IS THAT????

"The marriage was over?" 
WHO'S? 
Did the innocent spouses know?
Apparently one of the marriages wasn't-
because the enabling spouse of one of the adulterers is letting the adulterer off-
AGAIN!

In the meantime...
the other innocent spouse moves on. 
Get's the divorce....although that was filled with more lies! Anyway...re-marries. 

And is progressing in deserved happiness. 

The EX-spouse of the newly married ex spouse...won't let go. Still causing trouble. Lying to kids. Enabling kids. Won't allow religious rites for some of the children...because "the marriage was over"

SISTER....
The marriage IS over. 
IT AIN'T ABOUT YOU NO MORE!!!!

I just read the book The Help.  Several lines in the book stood out for this blog and the adulterers...

"Adulterer's Name-You a Godless woman! Ain't you tired, Adulterer's Name? Ain't you tired?"

and here's another one....

"Now, you get your raggedy ass off my porch. Go on. Get off my property! Now! Before we all get one of those disgusting things on our lips!" Isn't a cold sore a form of herpes?


You wanted him to leave....

NOW YOU LEAVE! 

Blame! Where to Place It?

Blame....it's an easy out! 

If you blame someone for YOUR actions, then they're the bad guy-not you!

AND THEN YOU WAKE UP!

Parents....they have responsibilities to their children. 
What if your child behaves like you....and all along you have been blaming someone else for your bad behavior? Do you hold your child responsible for their bad behavior....
I mean after all-they learned it from you! It's a slippery slope! 

Bad behavior IS bad behavior! 
Period! 
No excuses!

I didn't feel good today...so I slept with my best friends husband!
I didn't feel good today so I lied to everyone I know!
I didn't feel good today so I neglected my parental duties!
I didn't feel good today so I rationalized my integrity away!
I didn't feel good today so I lied to a police officer!
I didn't feel good today so I ......

It doesn't really matter if you felt good or not! 

WHAT YOU DID WAS WRONG! 

NOW OWN IT! 

SO YOUR CHILDREN WILL QUIT LEARNING FROM YOUR 
SORRY EXAMPLE OF PUTTING BLAME ELSEWHERE 
WHEN IT SQUARELY BELONGS ON THE SHOULDERS OF 
THE PERSON CHOOSING POORLY!!!!

It's the right thing to do....coming clean. 

It's not easy-

But it's right!

So where does the blame go....

On the person who did something wrong!

HMMMMMMM....
Not a new concept-
but perhaps a forgotten one by some!